Theres something comforting about watching Jennie YoungsTikToks.
Is getting a boner looking at someones photo a compliment?
followed by a shrugging emoji.
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Young identified this one-two combo as a common red-flag pattern in male communication online: Test and Apologize.
As she explained, The test is real, the apology is not.
This is a boundary violation, and its a form of manipulation.
This strategy, Young claimed, is nothing more than a visual variant of Test and Apologize.
On herInstagrampost, a commenter replied, This happened to me!
He showed me a shirtless bulge pic at dinner pretending it was about something else in the photo.
When I was offended he kept apologizing.
Like, I blocked my own doctor for sending me too many emails.
I just blocked my cats veterinarian because I dont need the texts.
I dont even want to say norms, because theyre not normal, she says.
Channeling her expertise, she began to catalog some of the rhetorical styles she saw invoked over and over.
The matches got way better.
Burned Haystack has10 cardinal rulesdesigned to fundamentally alter your approach to the apps.
Beyond the basics, Young combs through reader feedback to stay abreast of new trends and tricks.
What they mean by peaceful is compliant.
And those are two different things.
And I dont think you should be deceived by this.
Give them what they want by saying, Peace out, Boy Scouts.
But new platforms will emerge in the next few years, she thinks, some more successful than others.
Meanwhile, Young predicts, dating is going to become diversified in terms of modality.
Plus, I mean, can you imagine meeting me and dating?
I think Ive sort of disqualified myself from that particular venue.
Im just flying solo.
Oh my god, Ive seen way too much, she adds with a laugh.
